It's a Matter Of Awareness

2025-08-22T23:09:30

It’s A Matter Of Awareness

Today I got angry, at myself due to me conceding to a stranger on the internet. I certainly overreacted but I my response to my negative reaction is what irritates me. I tried to be moderate by deleting the post. I folded to the criticism that I already knew I disagreed with. So in this entry I’m going through a proverbial tick list of my reaction, what I can learn from it and how I can improve.

I saw the reply on the post and I didn’t read it: This is the first mistake. I should have calmed down and read the comment. I only saw the first half and went for my first reaction.

Overt negative reaction: I was flustered even though this is someone I do not know, likely a child and over a petty relationship. It was an opinion I was passionate about… yes but I have no right to morally complain about something like that on that particular tag. It would make me a hypocrite. This is not something worth being a hypocrite about.

Deleting the post: Straight up shouldn’t have. I was right… Or at least I personally think my opinion is right. There is no objective truth, we only work on what we think is right. And I without any wiggle room think I was right.

On the matter of adoption: 2 adopted sibling characters shouldn’t really be shipped. This is my line. Incest is a big no for me. If you don’t have lines when shipping then everything goes and well- that never ends well for anyone. The simple fact of the matter is an adopted sibling is still your sibling, the traditional understanding why incest is bad is that inbreeding causes recessive alleles to be inherited by the offspring.

My reason for non-biological incest being a no is that psychologically harmful behaviours that the shared individuals that raised you will be doubled. My siblings have so much shared experiences with me and that’s not a good thing always. We bond but in a platonic way over these shared struggles.

I understand that beyond the biological incest aspect this is a matter of perspective. I have adopted siblings, I have active experience. I have interesting parental figures. People experience life differently which informs their actions differently but I beg you to reconsider your relationships if you have adopted siblings dating… it’s petty, I know but you don’t have to drop the ship, you’re free to like what you like just don’t get mad at me for being passionately disgusted.

In conclusion: I was only mad about this because my eyes were victim to it. It’s something I fundamentally do not understand nor empathise with. However, I understand why that person was unhappy and I will make sure to hate elsewhere.